Nearly a year ago I wrote a blog post about why people give up on their healthy hair journeys. Check that post out by clicking here. Recently I decided that I would make a second part to that post exploring why people give up on their transition.
1. NOT HAVING PATIENCE
If you are transitioning, patience is key. Your hair will go through stages as you transition. In the beginning your hair may still be affected by the chemicals in the relaxer and can seem rough and tough. Also, some products that you previously used may not work so well on the natural hair also making it appear and seem rough. With a little patience, your natural hair will become more manageable.
2. EXPECTING A CERTAIN HAIRTYPE
Lately, hair typing has gotten way out of hand. Don't expect one type of hair, begin a transition, then pout because your hair isn't that type in the end. Learn to love your own hair type and appreciate what it can do. There are plenty of blogs and youtube channels available for the type of hair you have and you can look at all of the wonderful things your hair can do.
3. TRANSITIONING FOR THE WRONG REASONS
Now, there is no universal reason for wanting to transition, but I think someone who is transitioning should at least want natural hair. In real life I have encountered women who want to transition because they think that having natural hair is the only way they will get long hair. People who transition for this reason may become frustrated and relax again.
4. COMPARING YOUR HAIR TO OTHERS
Sure, her curls, kinks, or waves may be the same shape and size as yours, but that does not mean that your strands are identical and will need and do the same things. Her hair may be porous, fine stranded, with regular density while your hair is non-porous, you have thick strands, and hair that isn't very dense. It's difficult to find someone who's hair is exactly the same to your own in every way. Even family members have different hair types.
5. BELIEVING THAT YOU MUST USE CERTAIN PRODUCTS
I see it all the time, people who complain that natural hair is expensive. This complaint usually comes from those that feel they need to buy all of the natural/organic lotions and potions to manage natural hair. You can use inexpensive products on natural hair. I've seen people using aussie, vo5, suave, and all sorts of drugstore things on natural hair. Buy the products that work for you.
Please, don't give up on your natural hair journey. The transition is only the beginning.