YouTube Broke My Hair | Blog Response

On January 13th 2018, Craving Curly Kinks uploaded a video titled "Youtube Broke My Hair." In this video Debbie tells of how excited she was to film a hairstyle video for her channel. In her excitement she decided to apply gel to her twists for the first time. She thought that it would give her a more smooth result. Basically, she wanted to flex for the 'Tube. 

The result was a head full of mini locs that when she attempted to detangle them, caused her to lose fists of hair and be set back five years in length. The video includes pictures of her hair throughout her natural journey so it is clear to see the comparison of her hair now to the photos from two years into her seven year natural hair journey.

First, I want to say that I felt truly sorry for her. Some people complained about the length of the video but I understood why it needed to be this length. It was difficult for her to explain what happened, how she tried to fix it, and where she is with her hair at the moment without crying. She just chose not to edit out the pauses and I think not doing so allowed the viewer to really get how upset she was. 

Second, I believe some of the tangling may have been due to applying gel to hair that was not super detangled. There is certain kind of type 4 natural that uses lots of oils and butters, does not fully detangle their hair, and tends to wear stretched hairstyles. These naturals tend to have very long hair as a result of their low manipulation regimens. I can think of several youtubers that fall under that category and Debbie is definitely one of these naturals. 

This kind of regimen works for these naturals. However, if one wants to wear other styles, there may be extensive detangling time and possible dry hair as a result. This is definitely a learning experience for Debbie. I hope that she remains encouraged, gives her hair a trim to prevent broken ends from causing trouble, and presses forward with her natural hair journey.

ALSO, should she ever want to give gel a try, she'll know to fully remove all buildup--oils and butters will leave buildup every time, generously apply a water based leave-in, and thoroughly detangle her hair. 

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I'm Not Mad At Shea Moisture

Yes, I've seen Shea Moisture's most recent mens ad filled with many manly "snacks" (and meals!) that once again has folks talking about their brand. People first began talking after they were upset about the implied meaning of the "Break The Walls" campaign. Then, faithful Shea Moisture fans began to complain that the ingredients of their favorite products had changed. I will note here that Shea Moisture says that nothing has changed. Last, Shea Moisture released a very inclusive ad campaign that became the straw that broke the camel's back. 

There was a mass movement to boycott Shea Moisture and blog posts listing alternative products/brands sprang up from everywhere. In the midst of all of this, I have remained silent. I did not make a video. I did not write a blog post. I barely even made a Facebook post except to share an awesome ad by Sephora and Naturally Curly. Why did I not respond in outrage like everyone else? Because…I've been off Shea Moisture since the early days of my natural hair journey!

When I first went natural, Shea Moisture was the thing to buy. There was not a wide variety of natural hair products available in stores. So, Shea Moisture reigned supreme with it's great availability and $9.99 price point. Over the years more (and better) product lines were either created or made more accessible in stores. At the same time, the price point for Shea Moisture began to creep up and I personally became more conscious of the ingredients in my hair products.

​ I May Have Long Hair Privilege

​After seeing many women bemoaning shrinkage in relation to natural hair, I decided to create a video pointing out this disdain and expressing my own views on the topic. Spoiler alert: I'm not really concerned with shrinkage. I filmed, edited, and--nervously--uploaded the video. I'm always a ball of nerves when videos featuring my opinion go live. You never quite know what the response is going to be and I'm a sensitive (read: anxious) person!

Shortly after upload, the comments began to roll in. Most of them--to my relief--were quite positive. Many of the commenters aren't preoccupied with shrinkage while those that stretched their hair mainly did so to stave off tangles. It was also pointed out to me that pineappling and styling with gel are forms of stretching so I stretch my hair too. (While I can understand that at a surface level, my styled hair shrinks up much shorter than my "shower" hair and the pineapple doesn't offer me much additional length.)

It was one comment in particular that inspired me to write this post. It started "but not everyone has long hair??" and when I had finished reading the comment, I thought about the possible privilege that I experience as a long hair natural. Perhaps I am privileged to be able to not care about shrinkage? Gravity and length causes my hair to fall downward no matter if it is stretched out or not. I simply do not have to contend with the tangles that those with shorter hair sometimes deal with.

Is this revelation going to cause me to strike up the banner and ask long hair naturals to be more aware of short hair naturals? Probably not. Unlike other forms of privilege, many long hair naturals have been on the other side whether they seem to remember it or not. I too had hair that dried somewhere near my ears.

All in all, it's just something interesting to "chew" on.

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Creating Curls | The Mindset

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When I first went natural, I was convinced that I had 4c, Afro hair with no curl pattern. As a result, I expected my newly natural hair to fall into a perfect wash and wear Afro. I was welcomed to reality when my wash and wear hair came out dull and unintentional looking. Not getting what I wanted, I gave up on wearing my natural Afro quickly and turned to stretched styles, namely twists.

While I was wearing the twists and the eventual twist outs, I began to shift my perspective on presentability of natural hair. Twists became what I thought acceptable hair was and I needed the fresh twists or twist out before I could come outside of my home. When my hair became longer, the process of doing twists also lengthened so I reintroduced and mastered the braid out and Bantu knot out.

It didn't take long before I felt the same about these styles as I had felt about the twists. My hair had

to be set "just so" before I could go out in public. I worried about my hair being fully dry before unraveling the set. I worried about the weather holding for the week so that my braid out could stay beautiful. I was worrying too much for my liking--period.

It was at this point of fussing over my hair that I found the Maximum Hydration Method. The method meant washing my hair and wearing whatever pattern I was left with. The method made me feel like I could try wash and wear hair again. Over a year later, I no longer follow the method but I primarily wear wash and gos.

I no longer fuss over creating a curl pattern. I embrace frizz in my styles because they look natural to begin with making frizz less of an issue. It just looks like part of the style. My hair is also weather proof. Even in humid central Florida, I am able to have hair that lasts through the week.

Finally wearing my natural curl pattern had changed my attitude toward my natural hair. The manipulated styles had me in almost a relaxed hair mindset. If I could go back to the beginning of my natural journey, I'd tell myself to press on. Keep trying out different product combos, application techniques, and amounts of product. Wearing your natural hair as it is naturally is much less stressful.

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4B | The Safe Hair Type

What do you enter for hair type on your profile in your favorite hair communities? Is what you enter your actual hair type or a "safe" choice? I am one of the few people that places 4b on my profiles for the perceived acceptability of the hair type.

Early on in my natural hair journey my hair had no visible curl pattern and I primarily wore it in stretched styles. It was because of these things that I didn't really know my hair type and neither did I care. The not knowing or caring made it easy for me to select 4b and type it into the hair type box on my profile settings--no hesitation.

Someone may wonder why I selected this type and the reasoning was simple. I first knew that type 4 hair is commonly associated with black women. If I wanted to ruffle as few feathers as possible, I had better pick something in the 4s. That left me to picking a second identifier for my hair--a, b, or c.

Now, people who are on team 4c are very exclusive about their club. They are quick to tell you that you do not belong for any number of reasons--visible curl pattern, shine, ANYTHING really. Though I had no visible curl pattern, I didn't want to claim team 4c then get told I didn't belong.

That left 4a and 4b. I saw plenty of instances when someone would be told they were NOT 4a by other people but almost none where people were told they were not a 4b. This made 4b look like a welcoming and inclusive group. That's what sealed the deal and I'd been calling my hair 4b across the web ever since.

Recently I created a YouTube video finally being straight and answering the hair type question. Since I now wear my hair with a curl pattern, I used my interpretation of the chart and said that I was 4a. The comments say I'm 4b. I believe 4b is now legitimately claiming me.

Anyone else who is unsure of their hair type is welcome to sit at the table of 4b where we welcome everyone with open arms.

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Happy New Year! 2017

Happy New Year! 

As per usual, I will be laying down my goals for the new year in this post. I am finding that as I grow older and become more at peace, I have fewer goals that I want to achieve in the new year. I'm in a maintain state of mind.

Hair

I chopped my hair off this past November. My hair has been almost waist length for the past few years. It is this "almost" that has had me set it as a goal for those last few years. My hair is now between armpit length and bra strap length--depends on what strand you pull. Setting a goal of waist from this starting point would be unrealistic.

My hair goal for this year is to retain as much length as possible. I know that with average growth I should gain 6 inches in a calendar year. I expect to trim a bit for health and prevention. So, I'm looking to gain 4-5 inches of hair this year. I'm not sure what "body marker length" would coincide with this kind of growth.

Online

This year I gained 1,500 subscribers--a little shy of the 2,000 I was aiming for. This year I want to do more on my channel. My primary style of video is a sit down and talk type video. Though these do very well, I'd like to take how I present information to the next level. I'm also still wanting to have a ".com" attached to my name but I have been lazy on this one.

Life

Well, I've been maintaining a 30lb weight loss from 3 years ago. I became Vegan last year and I brought back reading for leisure. I'm trying to mostly maintain in my life but am interested in returning to journaling on a regular basis.

View past New Year Goal Posts: 2016 // 2015 // 2014 // 2013 // 2012 // 2011

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The Sales Associate Thought I Couldn't Part My Hair?

Christmas 2016 came early to my household. My Mom and Brother came to town before Christmas and left on "Christmas Adam" (Dec 23rd). Not wanting to miss any reactions, my mom asked that we open the gifts she got for us and the gifts we got for them. 

One of my gifts was a DevaDryer with DevaFuser attachment! I was super excited to get this because my old dryer is spent and my pop up diffuser attachment wasn't getting the job done. I'd hold the dryer to my hair for some time and....nothing. It was time to upgrade.

As I was marveling over my new dryer, my mom says "The lady at the store said she didn't know if you'd be able to get the dryer down in your hair." Um....? lol. I had two thoughts/questions after this comment.

1. What kind of hair can't be lifted/parted?

Even if you have the kinkiest of hair--and I am farther to the right on the hair spectrum as a type 4 natural--you should be able to roughly part your hair. At the least you should be able to lift your hair and insert the diffuser. If you can't lift/part, you have matted hair and instead of diffusing you should be gathering up some water, conditioner, and a detangling tool! 

2. How did my mom describe my hair to the sales associate?

Forgive my mom y'all. She doesn't know much about natural hair. She usually keeps a cute, short relaxed do. At times she dips over into the short natural side but our hair is completely different. Our hair is so different that I grew up in the salon. Bi-weekly I would have my hair washed, blow dryed, and straightened with either a hot comb or flat iron. 

Now, you must understand that my mom is in the "good hair" generation. She never said that I had "bad hair" but there were things for which I didn't have "that kind of hair." This makes me wonder what she could have said to prompt this response.

I've been natural for a while now and you just have to laugh at this kind of stuff. lol. I look forward to lifting my type 4 natural hair and getting my diffusing life. 

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I Moved to a Facebook Group!

In a previous post, I discussed how Facebook Pages isn't working for my blog/youtube channel. Despite having a 3-digit number of followers, under 10 people will see my posts--unless I pay up! That just wasn't working for me. So, I decided to try out a Facebook Group.

Visit and join the new facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/whatthekink

My hopes for the new group is that people will be better able to keep up with my content and we can better interact. The page will eventually be deleted.

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What Isn't Working for my YouTube Channel

I've done a lot of thinking about the things that just don't work on my YouTube channel or for my brand in general and some changes will be following in the new year. I think it is extremely important as a web content creator to think about what is being put out there and how people are responding--or not responding.

Makeup Videos

If you are a newer subscriber to my channel, you may not even be aware that I ever did makeup videos. But, if you go back into my uploads deep enough, you will see the occasional makeup video here and there. These videos just don't get the views that an average video on my channel will get. I honestly think people see them in their subscriptions and pass it by without even opening them.

Hair Styling Videos

You would think that a hair channel would get a decent amount of views on hair style videos. Sadly, that is not the case for my channel. Just like the makeup videos, style videos get terrible views. I listened to the stats and have not filmed or uploaded a style video since. 

Clothing/Fashion Videos

I love clothes and I love putting the pieces together for fashion. I am often complimented on my attire at work. Despite this, my clothing related videos are passed up on YouTube and get very low views. I got the message, folks don't want the fashion. lol.

My Facebook Page

My Facebook page isn't doing as well and it really has more to do with Facebook itself than any of the people who like my page. Facebook chooses who will see the posts to my page. So, despite having nearly 300 likes, only 7 people will see a video or text post and maybe 100 will see a post with an image. 

Now, this image is more likely to be liked than to actually compel people to click the link to the accompanying blog post or video. The whole system just isn't working. I'm considering whether to move to a group or just get off Facebook all together.

What does work?

I know pretty well what "the people" want to see on my channel. What works for me is natural hair care, hair growth, and product reviews. These get high views, appear next to related videos, and are easily found in search results. I'm still working on what works outside of my channel as far as social media. Even this blog really doesn't do much for my brand/channel.

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The Assumption That Our Hair Isn't Real

I was watching a video in which a man was sharing an MTV video segment and expressing how dumb he thought the message and the person in the video were. Now, let me give a few background details here. The person in the segment was a black woman with very long locs. This same woman has her own youtube channel devoted to these locs. So, like any other person would, I scrolled to the comments of this video.

As expected, many of the comments were racially charged with people attacking Black Lives Matter, MTV, and the woman in the segment. I found it especially interesting that many of the comments criticised her hair for being fake with comments like "Weave-head" and "What has happened to black women's hair? All this fake hair and wigs!" These comments had me lifting my eyebrows.

The woman in the video has very long and very real hair. Why must it be automatically assumed that a black woman with long hair is wearing a wig or weave and on top of the assumption be criticized for it? It takes me to the questions that I get about my hair. People love to first ask me if my hair is real, then give me a compliment.

We all need to open our eyes to the diversity in other people not like ourselves!

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How to Recover From A Setback

I was browsing a hair forum when I noticed a poster asking how to recover from a setback. They described in great detail exactly what happened and why. So, it was clear to me that they knew what needed to be done. I felt that they needed less of a practical answer and more of a motivational message. 

I replied- 

"The 100% proven method to move on from a setback is to "get back on the horse." Start back from the beginning and do what you KNOW is good for your hair. You know what caused this; learn from it and press forward."

Whenever you are going through something with your hair, remember these words. Start over! Worrying about what happened to cause your setback is not going to set the clock back and un-do it. Learn from it and move on.

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"White" Hair Products

Back in November I posted a product review of the Garnier Fructis Pure Clean Gel. The video was up for some time with no comments until I received a comment that was telling me how dry and stiff my hair was in the video. To credit this person the gel I was reviewing doesn't age gracefully and my hair was super old and still defying gravity from the pineapple ponytail I had slept in. Where I really didn't like the comment was when they "informed" me that the gel was for "white folks."

I'm sure many people can relate to discovering the online healthy hair community, discovering what one should look for in the ingredients of products, then being frustrated at not finding any products with these good ingredients or without the bad ones. This may not be the struggle now with so many brands that have popped up, but it was my struggle when I first began caring for my own hair. Why am I bringing this up?

I'm mentioning this struggle because the reason why I could not find products for my healthy hair journey at first was because I was restricting myself to the "ethnic products" section of the store. The first issue is that this section is super small and usually doesn't even include all of the products from the brands represented there. Furthermore many of the playfully misspelled products found here are loaded with cheap fillers like petroleum and mineral oil and chocked full of protein.

It was when I ventured out of this aisle that I found products that were more moisture based and--ironically--better for ethnic hair. These companies from the ethnic aisle are often NOT owned by people with hair like ours. They have no understanding of protein/moisture balance and how thirsty our hair can be. All they are banking on is that if they throw a black person on the label, YOU WILL BUY IT! So when you purchases many of these "black folk" products you are buying marketing and not so much a product fine tuned for ethnic hair.

So, no. I haven't been a slave to marketing in a long time and will continue to use whatever product works for my hair. I should hope you all do the same.

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Yes, Good Hair is Still a Thing

I was outside Winn-Dixie when I was accosted by a woman in a car who wanted to know what most people who see me want to know--"How did you get your hair to crinkle like that?" It always tickles me when people see my curl pattern as crinkles. I get that description quite a lot. I told "car woman" what I tell everyone. "I use a lot of conditioner--don't be cute about the conditioner--and lots of gel." But she didn't really want to know the products...they never do. She wanted to know what styling technique I used. Also, as usual, she was surprised to learn that this is just my natural curl pattern.

This conversation always ends with the person speaking to me concluding that I have good hair but asking me for hair tips anyhow. Though I am always happy to talk hair in real life, the good hair association always seems to make me feel uncomfortable. I didn't wake up like this! The appearance of my hair is due to care not some "good hair blessing." 

I feel that if I accept the label of good hair, I am encouraging someone else to be put in the bad hair category. I myself was told that I had tough/resistant natural hair. Though I never felt negativity toward my natural hair growing up, I knew good and well that I was pressed and later relaxed because my hair was deemed unmanageable. I had to listen to people ooo and aaaah over my cousin's silky baby hairs that I KNEW I did not and never would have.

I always walk away from these encounters wishing I could have gotten on a soapbox and explained that all natural hair can flourish. It just takes time, patience, and an ugly amount of conditioner.

Good hair. Is it still a thing? Comment below! 

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Things Naturals Need to Leave in 2015

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As we get settled into a new year, let us have a funeral for these natural hair "things" that are out for 2016!

1. Sleeping on cotton or using cotton head scarves

Before the online black haircare community became a "thing", black women have been sleeping in and wearing cotton scarves or getting their beauty rest on cotton pillows. For what this habit was, it worked, but now we know better! Please get a silk/satin pillowcase or a silk/satin head covering in 2016! This material will decrease friction between your hair and your pillow as you sleep and will also help you to better retain moisture in your 'do.

2. Using oil as a moisturizer

Oil does NOT moisturize! Oil is a sealant. It acts to lock in the moisture already in your hair. Please moisturize your hair with a leave-in, moisturizer, or basic water before going to town with the oil. You'll find that your hair will stay moisturized LONGER.

3. Copying other naturals

The online natural hair community is truly inspirational. You can see fabulous heads of natural hair with just a few clicks on any social media site. But let's take this for what it is in 2016--INSPIRATION! What is working for her may cause breakage for you.

4. Seeking perfect hair

The concepts of "perfection" and "human" just don't quite mesh. When I first went natural I would not step out unless I felt my hair was perfectly styled. The natural hair movement was younger and I wanted people to see natural hair looking good. Besides, I would most likely be one of only a few naturals they would see that day if they saw any others at all. Now, natural is everywhere. You no longer need to be the "natural representative" in 2016. Be you, be free!

What else should be left in 2015? Comment below! 

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What Is The Hardest Length To Reach?

I'm not sure what website I was on but someone posed the question "What length was the hardest for you to get to?" I thought that is was an interesting question and spent some time going through the responses. It seems that a lot of people experienced the "shoulder length hump" that is often reference in hair blogs and forums. My hypothesis as to why that length is hard to get over is that shoulder length is when you have the new variable of your hair rubbing against your clothing. If your regimen isn't strengthening and moisturizing, this new factor can cause breakage.

My hardest to obtain length has been waist length. It is ever elusive! I have experienced issues with not retaining any length on my journey to waist. I also had my hair straight break off a few inches! It's as if my hair just won't let me be great, lol. I am on the road to recovery and have really been monitoring my hair. I think I'm going to make it this time.

Now, I pose this question to you...

What has been the hardest length for you to achieve? Comment below! 

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Bald Max Hydration Users?

Another bald Max Hydration user

I was perusing Hairlista as I do from time to time, when I came upon a post asking what method was better--Max Hydration or Curly Girl. I replied that I have tried both methods and that the Max Hydration Method is a sub of the Curly Girl Method. I suggested that the original poster do Curly Girl then progress to Max Hydration if they weren't getting the results that they wanted. I moved on from the post feeling that I had given solid advice.

Later, I got an email saying that someone else had also replied after I had. I decided to check it out and what I saw was truly a mess. This reply stated that she hated both methods and the people following Max Hydration Method were bald and rarely had long hair. I took extreme offense to this because at the time I was deep into Max Hydration and am currently MBL. I no longer follow Max Hydration Method in its purest form but am still a huge supporter of the method.

I never responded to this person other than to say that I do the Max Hydration Method and that I am not bald. I honestly feel that there is a way to say everything. Not everyone has to agree with the Max Hydration Method but please respect those that do and avoid broad statements!

What do you think about the poster's comments? Comment below! 

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How To Break Your Hair Off | Satire

Your hair has been growing too long and too strong. It's about time it broke off. These tips will help you get the process started in no time!

Hardly Ever Wash Your Hair

Washing your hair involves water and water is moisture. We want to avoid moisture! Dry hair will break off more easily. Also, though it doesn't involve breakage, a dirty scalp will produce slower growth. Slower growth paired will breakage will surely make a big visual difference!

Throw Out Your Conditioner

Put that conditioner down! Conditioner is another bringer of moisture. To speed up the breakage process, eliminate conditioner used for deep conditioning, leaving in, and daily moisturization. Conditioner, Bad.

Comb/Brush Your Hair Very Thoroughly

Rip through the tangles with abandon. Bust through those naps like they're nothing. You will get the tangles out--out off your head and broken off. The combing combined with ditching cleansing and conditioning should also speed you toward your desired results.

Sleep With Your Hair Unprotected

All of this combing, not conditioning, and not washing are active things. Break off some hair while you sleep by skipping out on all silk/satin hair coverings and pillow cases.

Force Your Hair Into Styles

Your hair doesn't want to be pulled into a ponytail so tight that it snatches your eyebrows back? So what?! This thing isn't for the weak. You put your hair into that ponytail and enjoy the reward of broken edges!

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Is The Buzz Surrounding Natural Hair Dying?

When I was a student teacher, I got into a conversation with the teacher that I was assigned to about my natural hair and some of the negative responses I had gotten from people close to me. (Exhibits A & B) In reply, the teacher said "People have got to realize that you are going through a phase..." Whatever else she said after this I cannot remember because I was distracted by her calling my natural hair a phase! This was 2012 and the natural movement was alive and well. Also, the belief that natural hair was a fad that would soon fade in time was also alive and well.

Now, nearly 3 years later, many people have remained natural, brands have begun making more products geared toward natural hair, and natural blogs/youtube channels are a dime a dozen. With the normalizing of natural hair, I have seen many popular YouTubers lose interest in creating natural hair content. They have either ceased videos or have gone in a new direction such as beauty, fashion, or lifestyle. 

So, this is the question I have for you. Have you noticed a dulling of the buzz around natural hair?

Comment below! 

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The Silent Bad Hair

There is someone in my life that has "that good huuuuuur." You know the stereotype; silky, curly, not too thick. The catch is that this person is not even natural. Their good hair title is held by the baby hairs that resist relaxing. Any time someone compliments the length/thickness of my hair in this person's presence, the attention will eventually go to how "good" this person's hair is. "It will curl up so easy", "It's so easy to handle"...all of the usual statements you can imagine. 

Now, I love this person...I really do. But each time people begin to talk about her hair in this way I hear a silent "...and you have bad hair, Kayla." I think people focus so much on what they are saying that they neglect to think about what they are not saying. I'm a grown woman so I don't need confirmation or compliments but "the silent bad hair" does cut.

Have you gotten the silent bad hair? Comment below! 

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Video: When People Ask About Your Hair

I will admit that if you approach me in real life and ask me about my hair, I will stand there with my mouth open. It's not that I don't know my own hair routine, it's just that I have a million things racing through my mind.

I'm thinking about all of the different products I use. I'm pondering the techniques I incorporate in my regimen. I'm also thinking "what are they looking at" as my hair is hardly ever fresh when I get stopped. I usually just end up plugging my blog. I've got to get a quick response together.

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